Look who conquered his fear of flying!

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SGMT children conquer fear flying 01

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Yay! ūüôā ūüôā

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I wish I could say it’s because we did everything “right” this time, compared to last time,¬†but¬†we didn’t. Last time, we showed him cartoons that featured flying. We prepped him on what the plane and the airport would be like.¬†We went on a flight that coincided with sleeping time so he would be more likely to sleep through it.¬†We brought milk and books and toys¬†and an iPad full of his favorite song videos. Nothing worked. In the end, it took about two hours to calm him down, most of it with him in my arms as I stood at the back of the plane, rocking him gently and humming “Take Me Home, Country Roads” over and over again. (I don’t remember why¬†I thought of that song but it turns out it¬†lends itself excellently to repetitive humming.)

This time, all we did was bring a single book and a few packets of peanuts.

The truth is, there are lots of things we can’t control, no matter how hard we try. Kids are especially tricky because they can’t yet process information the way adults can. Things that seem irrational to us can seem very real and overwhelming to the little ones. And there’s no use saying, “Oh, but this kid can do that” or “that kid can do this.” We’re made of different stuff. Due partly to genes and partly to early experiences, some kids are better at handling stuff, just as some kids are more sociable, some kids are smarter, some kids are cuter, and some kids, you can tell as early as now, are potential axe murderers.

We’re all¬†works in progress and kids even more so. Sometimes — many times — the best thing to do is to just let go and let each child develop at his or her own pace. It’s not a race. And just as¬†victories are sweeter after you’ve¬†tasted a few defeats, something so¬†ordinary, a¬†sight as¬†simple-seeming, as a kid sitting calmly¬†on an airplane seat can give much greater joy after you’ve¬†tried humming “Take Me Home, Country Roads” for two hours straight.

Well done, little one! ūüôā

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SGMT children conquer fear flying 02

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Look who conquered his fear of flying!
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